Thursday, February 5, 2009


Go ahead and mention my child,
The one that died, you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn't show.
Don't worry about making me cry.
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.
I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending she didn't exist.
I'd rather you mention my child,
Knowing that she has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say "pretty good" or "fine".
But healing is something ongoing
I feel it will take a lifetime.
~ Elizabeth Dent ~


Ashley said...

I love that poem!! It is so true. Thanks for sharing your feelings heidi, you really help me more than you know.

lundgrenville said...

This poem is beautiful...
I know...2 comments in one day, but Heidi I cant stop thinking about you and that Angel Jersey..You are constantly in my thoughts...
I want to make your girls some hairbows...both of them!;) Besides I need to give you a real hug! :)
Hugs sister!!! Hugs!!! HUGS!!!

The Millirons said...

I LOVE that poem, it's very true too. I hate when people chose ignoring me over just asking me how I am or even asking me about Elizabeth. I think not saying something is much worse.

Reenie said...

That's a beautiful poem.

Evie's Story said...

Wishing there were a tangible way to remove some of your pain. Praying for you and Chris...for the ability to comfort and console eachother. For patience in the process. I cant imagine the toll it must take!
Love to you and yours!

Kristin said...

I thought about you today. I thought about your kiddos too, ALL 3 of them. That poem is very well said. I ache for you. I feel your sadness through your writting. I wish I could take the sting away, to heal your wounds or some how make them a little better. Your writting always touches me, makes me think about things a little differently, deeper. It may take a lifetime but I hope you will be able to heal a little bit everyday. Baby steps until sweet Jersey is in your arms again...Thanks for being so honest about how you are feeling. lots a Luvs...

The McKnights said...

That is a great poem! Given I've never been in your situation, but I imagine if I was, this poem would be very true for me as well. You and I are alike..we like to talk about things and get things out and off our chest to help feel a little bit better. You need the comfort and care of others. The worst anyone could do is not say anything and pretend it didn't happen! I could be a listeneing ear to you all day!

Jamie Y said...

I think about you all the time, but the other day I was thinking about how it must be hard after having so much support during the funeral that it must feel like people are "moving on" and forgetting. I just want you to know that it's not possible for anyone to forget your sweet Jersey girl. She has touched the lives of so many and she crosses my mind so often. Just the other day when I was getting my whole THREE stitches in my foot and was such a whimp, I thought about Jersey and all that she went through. What an amazing example she is of strength, endurance and love. Love ya, Heidi!

Nichols Family said...

Thanks for sharing Heidi. Thanks for sharing all of your thoughts and feelings no matter how you are feeling. I think of Jersey daily and will continue to always. ALWAYS! I'll still watch T and T even though we got annexed from the ward :).

Howard 5 said...

LOVE IT! I'm Tenneal, Kerri's friend. That poem is really only something we can understand. I hope to meet you one day.